For those of you who have read the past few posts that I’ve made you will know that in the last few months my youth group had been walking through a series on Relationships. It’s been a while since I’ve posted as life has been a bit hectic but I wanted to conclude that series with you. I think for those of you who have ready both the Identity series we walked through early in the summer and then the corresponding Relationship series it’s important to see where all of that was leading.
To be honest, there is so much more that should be and could be shared. There is so much more of my own story that someday you all will hear. There are so many other facets of God’s truth that illuminate and lead to these truths. But to be honest, I’m not willing to wait any longer for those moments to pass before sharing what I believe God is asking us to resolve.
But I’m getting a little ahead of myself. Let me first tell you what Resolution Night was all about. For me resolution Night was birthed out of my own Resolve as a teenager to seek after God’s Way in relationships and my own covenant with my parents.
As I have struggled in my own walk to restrict my relationships to God’s Will and timing, one of the things I am the most thankful for is knowing I an not alone. Knowing that my parents where there in my relationship successes and failures, that my friends would not stay silent but would believe more for me when I was ready to give up and for community beyond those two who continue to stand with me for God’s best. And it was out of these relationships and the belief that there is something of a sealing that happens when we choose to stand for our resolves that our Resolution night was birthed.
Resolution Night was the culmination of our whole relationships series where youth were invited to make a public declaration of their resolve to do relationships God’s Way. They weren’t forced and hopefully they didn’t feel coerced. My goal was not numbers but instead heart.s Even if only one person stood, I would have rejoiced because they were making a decision that would change their life. If anything, I did everything I could to make certain they only made a stand if they were ready and willing to live under that resolve.
Students were encouraged to talk with their parents about making the resolve and ask them to stand with them on that night, to partner with them in their resolve.
The resolve was three part: Youth, Parent and Community. And for me, the night had more of an impact because just as they were making that resolve, I too was resolving with them for the very same thing.
As an image bearer of God, I believe that I was made for relationship with both God and others. I believe that relationships, although God’s design, are not the full purpose of our creation, but instead part of the greater plan. In these relationships I believe that God’s heart is to cultivate and fulfill the desires of my heart.
As such, I resolve to pursue relationship with God before all others and to relate God’s way. I resolve to trust and wait for God’s promised spouse and participate in relationships based solely on God’s love.
Specifically, I resolve to:
- Be intentional today for the promises of God tomorrow.
- Guard my eyes: I will abstain from and avoid any stimulating material of any type.
- Confess when I make a mistake and repent of sin.
- Seek accountability and walk with integrity.
- Allow God to heal and restore all areas of my heart.
- Love out of willful purpose not based out of feelings or desires today.
- Love in a way that gives others what they need not necessarily what they or myself want, even if this results in rejection.
- Pray for my future spouse and will not cultivate any emotional one-on-one relationships before the Lord’s time.
- Set boundaries in relationships for the intention of honoring and respecting both me and those I will relate with, today and in the future.
- Pray for others and treat them with kindness, respect and compassion.
- Explores and seek out who God created me to be.
- Accept responsibility for my own purpose.
- Accept responsibility to administer the Kingdom of God to the World as God calls for my life.
- Accept responsibility to not settle for anything less than a suitable partner for my purpose.
- Reject Passivity.
- Be responsible for my own will.
- Seek out and stand for the things of God.
- Confront evil, pursue justice, and love mercy.
- Rely on God.
- For strength, wisdom and grace.
- To bring to pass all His promises in my life.
- To bring His purity from my heart into my thoughts and actions.
- Trust those He has placed in authority over me.
As a man of God, made in His image, God created me to honor and protect those made in His image. As such, I resolve to:
- Lead courageously: I am led as directed by God and will not be led by the world or my own desires and fears.
- Boldly pursue: I will chase after and take responsibility for my suitable companion, God’s ordained woman.
As a woman of God, made in His image, God created me to honor and protect those made in His image. As such, I resolve to:
- Guard and protect my beauty: I have been given a beauty and a power to influence and inspire those for God’s Kingdom.
- Refuse to settle: I am worth being fought and pursued. I will not settle for anything less than God’s best.
- Take responsibility to care for and love God’s ordained man for me and the generations that will come out of our partnership.
As the parents entrusted with the responsibility of raising children made in the image of God, we resolve to help raise our children to relate God’s way; to trust and wait for their anointed spouse and participate in relationships based on God’s love.
As such, we resolve to do this by:
- Praying: In all matters pray for and into the children God has entrusted to us. Calling forth through prayer, and the actions that follow, the image of God in our children.
- Being present: no matter what happens, we will be there mentally, physically emotionally and spiritually to support, encourage, guard and guide our children.
- Loving: regardless of mistakes, we will love with God’s love, not without consequence but full of grace.
- Teaching biblical truth:
- Through reading, explanation and godly example.
- To teach our sons that “they have what it takes,”
- And our daughters that they “are enough.”
- Creating, instructing and enforcing boundaries: with the express purpose of cultivating healthy and godly relationship.
- Fighting against the tactics of the enemy to diminish, destroy, and mar God’s intention and design in our children.
As the church is not just a building where we gather to worship but instead a community of people “called out” of the world into the Kingdom of God. As such we resolve to stand together to help this youth and family to relate God’s wait; to trust and wait for their anointed spouse and participate in relationships based on God’s love.
Specifically, we resolve to:
- Hold any confession or struggle of a friend in confidence (except when necessary to share with an adult).
- Share with an adult any struggle or sin of a friend that needs addressing. I will first tell my friend before sharing with a leader, to convince them to go with me. I refuse to yield to “unsanctified mercy” that allows sin to increase in my friend’s life.
- Follow through in the process of bringing our friends accountability to see complete healing and restoration.
- Help instill and enforce healthy boundaries and practical steps for emotional, physical and spiritual purity.
Our Resolution Night blew me away as 7 of our youth with their parents stood for God, their peers and community and resolved to relate God’s way. What a powerful night!
Early I said “But I’m not willing to wait for those moments to pass before sharing what I believe God is asking us to resolve.” And this is true, I believe that there are those who will read this either in the near future or the years to come who will recognize that God is asking you to make this resolve.
It doesn’t matter your age or your history. If you have made mistakes before and have not waiting on God’s best for you, it’s okay, you can start today. If you have waited for so long that you have given up hope, don’t give up but instead trust in the God that loves you in a way that ultimately is fixated on you being made completely whole.
I would like to invite you to resolve to relate God’s way. Look for parental figures (if not your own parents) to resolve with you. Give them permission to guide and cover you as God intended. And then seek out community to love you and hold you accountable. I’m here. The body of Christ is here.
Will you believe you were made for more?
Will you trust and wait on God’s best for you?